Caring too much about the wrong thing.

I give too many fucks.

I’ve known that I give too many fucks for some time, but a conversation with the Gent at 2am this morning really highlighted that fact when every worry I had was met with ‘that’s because you care too much’.

Caring is great, in fact the world would be a better place if people cared even a smidgen more, but caring too much can leave you paralysed with fear. It can give you endless anxiety, decision fatigue, and insecurity. It can make you reconsider your identity, your work, and ambitions.

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My Sex Work Story

How I got into sex work, and why. This post I’m going to talk about my journey into sex work, but first, a little intro. To make a long story short I’m disabled. I have, and have had undiagnosed widespread chronic pain, plus a wide assortment of weird medical maladies for 10 going on 11 years now. Being a medical mystery/pain in the docs butt, is a huge part of my life, and it effects me daily. Not a day goes by where I’m free of pain or annoying symptoms, and if I try to do too much too fast then that day gets a…

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Tips and Tricks from a disabled Dominatrix I

Don’t Panic! Tips and Tricks from a disabled Dominatrix I Clients, or at least dealing with clients can be tricky. I don’t session at all these days – it takes it too much out of me. Though, I never used to session to much way back when – I think I average 4 sessions a month on a good month. Why? My time, and energy is precious so I treat it as such, after 12 yers of chronic illness I’ve finally learnt that fact. When I did session I developed a certain way of sessioning – a code of body…

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How My Partner Helps with My Job

How My Partner Helps with My Job Being a clip producer isn’t exactly physically demanding … for most people. As always, I’m not most people. As I mention in this post I can’t put on the intricate lingerie needed for my job by myself, but that’s not all. Nowadays, half of my feet are numb, and this means I’m essentially a danger to myself. I have absolutely no balance. I can’t tell whether or not I’m walking into things, and I am very prone to falling over. As you can imagine this isn’t exactly conducive to being a clip producer…

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Being a Professional Dominatrix with a Disability

I am an pretty darn good Dominatrix.  It doesn’t matter whether I’m playing for fun with play partners, paid professional work in a real time scenario, or online sessions with clients – I’m good. I also happen to be disabled. Now, this doesn’t detract from my abilities, my kink, nor the way I conduct my sessions – whether they’re online or in person. However, it does seem to impact my clients. So, let’s have a conversation.  From time to time I’ve had clients hold off on messaging me, requesting custom content, asking for sessions, or tributing because they know I’m going through…

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