Sex Work and Disability “The aim of the talk was to give an inside view of what it’s like working within the adult industry whilst at the same time having a physical disability. Also to draw parallels between disability stigma, and sex work stigma – speaking personally as someone with a finger in each pie, sex work and disability are very similar in how they’re viewed – as something sensational yet marginalised and ‘not normal’.” I want you to think of your run of the mill path. Got it in your mind? Good. Now, I want you to walk down…

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I lost my sexuality for a year. A love letter to Eroticon. I’ve just spent a year living through hell. I wish that was an exaggeration. 12 months of insidious pain, climaxing in a 12 day hospital stay, and a bunch more daily meds with powerful side effects. I’m not cured – there’s  a chance I may get worse, but either way I’ve come up for some fresh air. A more fleshed out description lives here. It’s only because of a recent sex filled weekend at Eroticon that I realised just how out of touch with my sexuality, wants, needs,…

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Let’s talk about blow jobs! Note: I can only speak from personal experience, and the tips and tricks below are things I’ve learnt over the years giving head to dildos, penises and the like. This post is also phallus orientated, occasionally penis orientated, and sometimes orgasms in relation to penises orientated. I love blow jobs. Not only do I adore them from a control aspect, but the sadistic part of me likes playing with teeth and pressure. However, one part of me that doesn’t like giving head is my jaw. I have TMD – essentially my jaw hates repetitive movement,…

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Aka, “I’m experimenting with ways to make myself feel moderately human again.” I feel rotten. I don’t feel attractive, and I definitely don’t feel sexy. Last night, I told that to the Gent. He’s a good egg. He reassured me I’m still attractive, and had my hips been willing he would have definitely had sex with me. But, my brain isn’t quite buying it. My hair is unwashed. I’ve been wearing the same comfy joggers for days. I’m living off crisps, and anything non-perishable I can horde by my bedside, and I’m four layers deep into both dry hair shampoo, and deodorant. Sexy, right? But, this is the…

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Or, ‘what to do when you can’t physically masturbate’. (But that wasn’t as catchy.) I’m currently bed bound, in the midst of what’s known as a ‘flare’. My muscles ache, and my joints creak. When I move different parts of me hurt from my head, all the way down to my toes. And, as to why I’m telling you all this … I’m horny. Not in a fleeting ‘oh it would be nice to have an orgasm way’, but in a honest to god ‘no orgasms for two weeks, teased to the brink way’ horny. You see, when I’m sick I masturbate. It’s the thing to do when sick…

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