Hearing loss in the bedroom Something you may or may not know – I have hearing loss. As always with me, no one is sure why, and I’m still getting it investigated. I first noticed it late last year when everything else kicked off, and it seems to be accompanied by tinnitus, fluctuating sound independent of the hearing loss, vertigo and balance issues. Whilst I don’t have a good gage of whether or not the hearing loss has gotten worse, it’s far enough from my ‘norm’ that to effects me daily. Whilst it’s predominantly my lower tones, a lot of…

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How do you make sex toys accessible?  9 ways to make sex toys accessible, or at least get you thinking. I’ve had a number of conversations about how to make sex toys accessible with various people, from bloggers, to industry folks, and to the Gent. The short story, there’s no one way to make every single sex toy on the market accessible, the long story … well read on. Accessibility in sex toys is a topic close to my heart. I love sex toys. I have so many of them that each year my sex toy storage has to increase, but…

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My sexual needs, wants, and desires are secondary. Disability and sexuality … according to the medical system.  Recently I wrote a piece about Eroticon, and how it reawaken my sexuality. This piece is in someways an accompaniment to that, this piece is how my sexuality got pummelled, pulverised, and ultimately put away. Then I saw a bunch of tweets today (for everyone’s mental health I won’t include them), and yet again I started getting riled up about disability and sexuality and how it’s not taken seriously. Doctors have important jobs, I will in no way dispute that. That only reason…

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Accessible Lingerie  (This post is brought to you by being by myself for for the first time in over a year, and trying – and failing to put lingerie on for work.) I love lingerie, I wear it for work, pleasure, and play. I wear it for myself, for customers, and my partner. But at the moment I can’t wear it, at least I can’t wear it independently. The tips of my fingers don’t work, and can’t really feel sensation in my finger tips, my hands go red and ache, and I can’t bend my arms or my body into…

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3) You very rarely hear the voice of the sex worker or person with a disability talking, other people talk over us and for us.  This one ties neatly into my previous point, so I won’t go on too much about it, but even when our voices are portrayed they’re twisted. News articles want a story that juicy – just last year I came down to Eroticon, but I came down a day early to go to an industry event. The event was a showing of a new show like Sex Excetra that showcased sex workers doing their day to…

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