Tips and Tricks from a disabled Dominatrix | Edition I

Don’t Panic! Tips and Tricks from a disabled Dominatrix I

Clients, or at least dealing with clients can be tricky. I don’t session at all these days – it takes it too much out of me. Though, I never used to session to much way back when – I think I average 4 sessions a month on a good month. Why? My time, and energy is precious so I treat it as such, after 12 yers of chronic illness I’ve finally learnt that fact.

When I did session I developed a certain way of sessioning – a code of body kindness if you’d like.

First things first, type of client. 

Clientele wise, I only take on clients that seem affable. I could have taken on more clients, but I prefer a good gut feeling so I know that if worst comes to worse and I have to cancel they’ll be mostly okay with it. I also have an ‘in the unlikely event I have to cancel a new date shall be rearranged’ clause on all session requests. And, if I do have to rearrange I like to tack on a five to ten minute custom or audio piece as a gesture of good will. But most of the guys are fine to change, because I screen thoroughly.

Next, contingencies.

  • Everyone I session with has to have an ‘easy’ fetish. A ‘I can sit here and do nothing’ fetish. So foot worship/being locked in a cage etc. That way if something happens and I flounder they’re getting their kicks, and I get to recoup.
  • Write down ‘go to’ lines on a piece of paper or on your phone. That way they can be incorporate in somehow – see point one, I usually plan around an easier fetish if I need to check something.
  • Music. I always have music, that way if I need to check my phone for the above I can do so under the presence I want to change the track. Unless specified I always have the same sort of music so it helps my head slip into ‘badass boss’ mode.
  • Limit your session activities. Do things that come naturally. I won’t do strap on, face sitting etc because it expends too much energy. CBT/CP/SPH etc all come naturally to me so I don’t have to be switched on as much.
  • Create a ‘cheat sheet’. I highly recommend cheat sheets in all walks of life, and sessioning is just another one of them. For each client I’d create no more than a scratch card’s worth of notes: name, age, favourite fetishes, phrases, etc, that way I could.

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